Tuesday, 24 June 2014

signaling


It is impossible not to signal, which
sort of makes me unhappy.

6 comments:

anexactinglife.com said...

Agreed - we communicate whether we want to or not!

Gam Kau said...

ExactingL - yes, even if we don't want to!

Shelley said...

I had a boss that was a real bully and when I first worked for him my face gave him all the wrong signals! I felt my expression enraged him and got me into all sorts of trouble. So I learned to keep a deadpan face, I think we all did. But that really creeped him out! There was never going to be a way to win in that situation, but I learned a bit about human nature. It's weird for a person not to give signals, I think it makes us uneasy because we want that human feedback. Not to signal makes us more like robots perhaps. I do appreciate your wish for privacy. Oddly, there are people to seem to manage a sort of 'blank, benign, pleasant face' here - it's very middle class and pretty much dismisses everyone else as beneath notice, so I guess even they are sending signals! Too funny (thinking out loud here).

Gam Kau said...

Ha Shelley, I have run into that "blank benign pleasant face" as well. It actually took me a good many years to teach myself not to greet passer-bys. A British friend of mine said, "GK, of COURSE you don't smile at strangers, just ignore them!" An American habit difficult to break.
Frankly, I think much of the time we are signally one thing and it is being interpreted as something completely different.

Yuko Jones said...

well, all these misunderstandings my husband and I have in our relationship...

Gam Kau said...

Ha, Yuko! That's just it! We say and signal one thing and it goes out into the universe and gets reinterpreted as something completely different.