Agreed - we communicate whether we want to or not!
ExactingL - yes, even if we don't want to!
I had a boss that was a real bully and when I first worked for him my face gave him all the wrong signals! I felt my expression enraged him and got me into all sorts of trouble. So I learned to keep a deadpan face, I think we all did. But that really creeped him out! There was never going to be a way to win in that situation, but I learned a bit about human nature. It's weird for a person not to give signals, I think it makes us uneasy because we want that human feedback. Not to signal makes us more like robots perhaps. I do appreciate your wish for privacy. Oddly, there are people to seem to manage a sort of 'blank, benign, pleasant face' here - it's very middle class and pretty much dismisses everyone else as beneath notice, so I guess even they are sending signals! Too funny (thinking out loud here).
Ha Shelley, I have run into that "blank benign pleasant face" as well. It actually took me a good many years to teach myself not to greet passer-bys. A British friend of mine said, "GK, of COURSE you don't smile at strangers, just ignore them!" An American habit difficult to break. Frankly, I think much of the time we are signally one thing and it is being interpreted as something completely different.
well, all these misunderstandings my husband and I have in our relationship...
Ha, Yuko! That's just it! We say and signal one thing and it goes out into the universe and gets reinterpreted as something completely different.
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